GOALS FOR 2017
We are in week two. And along with the rest of the world I've enthusiastically hit the reset button on life and embarked upon a new journey of self discovery and better habits and world domination. Im taking a slightly different approach this year and have replaced my vision board with an affirmations board, my resolutions list with a Less List and created a blueprint that will allow me to embrace the person I am, while leaving room for continuing to grow into the person I want to be forever and not just in 2017 -- My 10 Personal Commandments.
Excited to share:
MY LESS LIST
Less of the things that leave me feeling low in energy, mentally drained and zapped, and spiraling into a deep depression.
Less Donald Trump. No seriously. After real snot and tears, I've decided to just turn off politics. This is a tough one because I like to stay informed. But just not to the detriment of my daily peace of mind and ability to function. I realized about a week after the election that I felt just really optimistic and overall happier that day. And then I also realized that it was 5 in the evening and I had yet to turn on the television or internet. In turn, I've deducted that I'm much less anxious and overall happier when I'm not watching so closely. So the plan is to find a volunteer effort that allows me to be involved in moving my community forward while not being so inundated with the negativity that has plagued this election. Wish me luck.
Less Sugar. After the mountains of sweet potato pie and Christmas cookies I consumed over the holidays, a detox and rehabilitation is definitely in order. Its Girl Scout Cookie Season, and I'm the Troop Leader. God has a great sense of humor. I've enlisted Tony to assist as my Accountability Agent.
Less TV. I had gotten quite in the habit of binge watching a show like my life depended on whether or not I got to the last episode. And then immediately feeling listless and drained. Who wouldn't after 147 episodes of Shameless? So TV time is more intentional these days. Watching mainly with someone else, a preplanned enjoyable show as opposed to just scrolling to find something (anything) to watch. And then off when the episode is over. So far I've enjoyed The Bachelor with Tony. The Secret Life of Pets with the kids. And a repeat showing of Michael Che's (very inappropriate but hilarious) Netflix Comedy Show in front of the fire with popcorn and a glass of something yummy and savory...
Unnecessary Spending. I was at an event last year and stood in line for a fortune teller who told me just matter of factly, that she had given herself a $25 limit on splurges or spur of the moment purchases and that she was pretty sure that I had also given myself that same rule except that my limit was $100. And that also, she knew that I had some anxiety that I was dealing with because of it. She said a few other spot on things that had me wondering if she had been reading my journal or following me to Target. Nevertheless, I have since decided to try and adopt a more prudent and fiscally responsible spending plan.
Negative Self Talk. I must love myself as freely and as intensely as I do my family. And make encouraging and affirming my success daily a priority -- the same as I would my children. I deserve that. I will trust myself because have important work to do. I will trust my dopeness.
10 Personal Commandments
Well I really only have 7 so far. But as I approach the big 4-0 this year, I'm leaving myself some room for epiphanies, improvements, and "Aha" moments of clarity.
1. Thou shalt not compare yourself to others. Be Bunnie. Not who you think you are supposed to be, or what fits nice and neatly into the box. Not who you think others will approve of. But who I really am. Embrace it, Own it, Love it.
2. Thou Shalt Exercise Often. Exercise is non-negotiable. I'm getting older and exercise needs to happen. Often. Without the guilt of taking away time from little people or big people. Exercise makes me happy, and feel strong, and we will all be the better for it.
3. Thou Shalt Not Deprive Myself Entirely. Dessert Twice a Week. That includes cornbread. My cornbread tastes like birthday cake. Also pancakes. Pancakes are a dessert. Say no to sugar, Except for twice per week.
4. Thou Shalt Just Do It. Pursue progress not perfection. You are worthy now, not when _________ fill in the blank.. Do what inspires you today and expect the the universe (God) to support you. Do something every day toward accomplishing your goals. See more. Say Yes More. Do more.
5. Keeping Up is easier than Catching Up. I am the queen of procrastination. Although I claim to do my best work under pressure, the stress of waiting until the last minute to turn in a project feels like I'm carrying my 8 year old in an Ergo. And I know all too well that the pile of laundry is not going to wash and fold and hang itself. So do a little each day.
6. Thou Shalt Schedule Your Priorities. List your top 3 things that need to get done each day, one of those things has to be for me and accomplishing my goals; Fitness, Writing more, Learning a new skill. And if its on the calendar it happens.
7. Thou Shalt Proclaim Gratitude Daily. We have so many things to be grateful for. And I know it's cliche' at this point, but there is something to taking the time to be intentional about acknowledging the things you are grateful for. Its how I start the day. What am I grateful for? This beautiful chocolate skin, may it never dull or crack? The first cup of coffee.. That first hot sip --It soothes my soul. The memories I am blessed to make with my favorite people. The courage to let go of who I think I’m supposed to be and embrace who I really am.
So that's what I've got. And honestly its hard work (at least for me) to be better. And I'm tired. Yesterday I caught myself waiting for a stop sign to turn green. But onward and upward. And Happy New Year to You.